What do you think of my Me-V?

An interesting article by Phoebe Luckhurst in the Evening Standard last week – Send us your Me-V. Employers are increasingly requesting Video CVs (Me-Vs!) from applicants. Recruitment specialist ‘Hello my Name is…..’ suggests that a whopping 75% of firms now believe that traditional CVs are not “an effective tool for securing a role”. A graduate recruitment site, ‘Aspirating Interns’, suggests 94% of companies looking for an intern favoured Video CVs.

This all sounds exciting – or maybe terrifying – but aspiring Me-V makers must remember that the same criteria applies to Me-Vs as to CVs which we often help with alongside interview training. Firsts impressions are key – a sloppy video will lead to an even quicker turn off than a badly presented CV. Your body language is critical as it would be in the interview room – be alert, engaged and engaging. Vocal quality will be assessed too – is your voice clear, steady, confident, enthusiastic? And do you look natural and spontaneous – not as if you are reading from a piece of A4 sellotaped to the wall! While you are not being assessed on the ‘production value’ of the piece, do remember that your self presentation will say a lot about you.  A 30 second TV commercial involves a team of creatives and a lot of cash and even they can go wrong sometimes.

We believe the key point to remember either in a written CV or a Me-V is how best do I communicate MY STORY in a way that convinces a prospective employer that I am just what they are look for. This is what we work on with everyone we see whether looking for a school/university place or a job. So for all of you out there thinking about your Me-Vs, we’d be glad to help – Prep4’s directors are the perfect combination of a journalist, a drama coach and a film maker. For advice or assistance in delivering your story, whether at an interview, on a CV or a Me-V email graham@prep4online or victoria@prep4online.com.

Don’t worry, when Phoebe Luckhurst point outs that “…showreels certainly favour those who spent their childhood warbling in school pantos, harbouring fantasies of Blue Peter stardom,” she is forgetting that like many challenges, if you prepare properly you can do a great job, whatever your background.
Graham Lee

Globally Connected

Pippa and I recently experienced a truly international occasion when we attended our son’s graduation ceremony at Warwick University. CaptureAs a globally connected university, Warwick attracts staff and students from over 140 countries and boasts a truly cosmopolitan campus where every student is considered ‘international’; this means that through inter-cultural learning and experiences the University aims to equip every graduate to become a successful citizen on a global stage. This feels like a real step change in further education in the UK.
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The University awarded an honorary doctorate to Sir Vernon Ellis, the chair of the British Council. In a very relevant speech Sir Vernon referred to the global make-up of students, there in the hall collecting their degrees. When it was founded the British Council’s remit was to spread British influence across the globe through the development of cultural relations. Now, he pointed out, the remit is the same and communication has never been easier, yet understanding between people and cultures is as fragile as ever. I was impressed with his promotion of the British Council’s International Schools Award through which a British School forms a partnership with a school overseas giving pupils at both schools a chance to learn about life in the other country, and so develop themselves as global citizens. In the world in which today’s children are growing up they encounter a greater variety of perspectives, cultures and communities than ever before and it should be the task of everyone working in education to encourage them more than ever to become international globally connected citizens. #

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The Stage New Year Party

On Friday Pippa and I were invited to The Stage New Year party. The Stage is the theatre industry newpaper. Lots of theatre people were in attendance and we had a particularly interesting chat with Susan Elkin the Stage’s training correspondent. Stage 2014Susan is on the awards panel for drama training scholarships. The Stage scholarships are now worth around £1m a million a year! Susan is a great fount of knowledge when it comes to drama training so anyone wanting to know more should keep up with her column in The Stage.
Here’s a link to some of her recent articles.

Cyber Bullying by Hannah (updated)

Ever since the social media storm hit us with Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and hundreds of other popular networking sites, cyber bullying has become an epidemic. It’s an unfortunate fact that anyone with access to the internet, whatever device it may be, also has access to the extreme, hurtful slander and abuse available online. You could be the nicest, kindest and the most innocent person on the planet, but there will still be someone in the world who doesn’t like that and given the easy accessibility the internet provides to connect with anyone over the world, it’s not hard for someone to voice their opinion of you.
Now with over 1 billion users online, Facebook is king of the social network. A near runner up is Twitter. Twitter does have a messaging service available, but generally people choose to voice their opinions out loud for all their followers to see, whether it’s a broad view or targeting someone in particular. Facebook is generally more direct with the use of private messaging, allowing each participant to twist the story their way when telling others about it through gossip, often making the situation worse for everyone involved.
Worse by far are the anonymous sites, where people have the ability to say whatever hurtful (or harmless) comments they wish without the risk of getting caught. When writing anonymously, people tend to let their words fly out of their mouths with no concern of how the person on the receiving end, but in some cases people who don’t even know the person they’re writing about will send extremely hurtful comments to them just to get a reaction for entertainment. In my personal experience of all these websites I’ve had more than my fair share of abusive comments, mostly through anonymous websites.
Sometimes it is best to try to disregard, however hard that can sometimes be, but at other times you might need to try and decode who is responsible. My personal advice is to look hard at the idiolect used – we all have a very distinctive individual voice even when typing online and this analysis can often give you a good idea of who’s behind the keyboard. This knowledge, if it someone known to you, is so valuable as it allows you often to put things in proportion and to plan an appropriate strategy for coping, and taking action or choosing not to. It puts you back in control at some level. Unfortunately, unless these sites become fully monitored 24/7, (a potential breach itself on people’s privacy), this won’t stop for good, but there are many ways to help soften the blow from cyber bullies. Peer support will always be one of the best ways to overcome hurtful comments, being reminded of how loved you actually are and the kindness most people express will not only make you feel better about yourself, but often changes your perspective and helps you to view these comments for what they actually are, – petty jealousy and entertainment seeking from those who need to ‘get a life’.
Following Hannah’s article we were sent a link to a blog written by David Cook, a cyber-crime expert, who has written an article on cyber-bullying and asks how can we protect children from cyber bullying? He looks into some statistics relating to cyber bullying and then goes on to look at the law and cyber-bullying, as well as providing some tips for parents. Please do take a look at:http://www.pannone.com/media-centre/blog/cybercrime-blog/what-will-it-take-protect-our-children-cyber-bullying

Prepare your Daughter for Boarding – The launch party

Richard Harman, Victoria Davies Jones & Hugh Davies Jones edited 2Educational giants including incoming Chairman of the HMC and Headmaster of Uppingham, Richard Harman, (pictured here with Hugh Davies Jones and Victoria) and John Baugh, Headmaster of Oxford’s Dragon School mingled with a lively crowd from every walk of Boarding school life to launch educational consultancy Prep4’s new book “Prepare your Daughter for Boarding” by Victoria Davies Jones. The book is prefaced by Claire Oulton, Headmistress of Benenden and holder of Tatler’s 2013 Lifetime Achievement award. Victoria’s daughter Sophie was let out of school for the evening to prove her mother’s good advice while Marina Byrne, Tilly Browne and Bella Grubb shared stories of their boarding school days rather freely with staff and parents! The wine flowed at the Elysee in Percy Street, London’s oldest Greek restaurant, but luckily Victoria’s guidance on boarding do’s and don’ts was well heeded and the evening ended without any broken china.
See more party pictures at Bystander in the Tatler Online.

Prepare your Daughter for Boarding

back covercover shotPrepare you Daughter for Boarding is now available. You may buy direct from the publisher John Catt Educational or from other online sources such as Amazon.

Prepare your Daughter for Boarding
“This excellent book offers advice from a mother on how to prepare girls for their first experience of boarding school.

Modern boarding schools are relaxed and pleasant places for children to develop. However, this new freedom does mean that boarders have to make more of their own decisions and puts a new burden of responsibility on their shoulders. It is an ideal book for parents who have already decided that boarding is the best option and is a guide to preparing your daughter so that she can get the most out of the wonderful opportunity she has been given.

Based on extensive research and a sizable archive of advice and anecdotes from a huge number of staff, girls and parents, the advice ranges from the obvious to the rather more surprising. It will certainly leave you and your daughter better armed for what is ahead.”

Make the Right Impression

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Creating a Confidence Circle

Make the Right Impression is a workshop that Victoria and I have designed to give students additional edge in the current highly competitive educational environment. Over the course of the day they develop their personal presentation skills in advance of applying to senior schools with particular emphasis on overcoming nerves, confidence building , and how to create a positive impression at first meetings and interview.
Students enjoyed a great morning session working on physical and mental exercises that helped them to see how they come across to others and not only built their confidence but gave them easy to use strategies and approaches to ensure that they could present themselves in relaxed and confident manner for interview.
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After another of Victoria’s famous lunches the afternoon began with a discussion on the personal attributes and qualities that the students might want to highlight as they worked on building up their own personal profiles. This was then used in a series of one to one practice interviews with feedback. Eveyone agreed it had been most useful day and without exception all felt that what they had learned would help them to “make the right impression…”

James impresses Victoria

James impresses Victoria

The pros and cons of the scholarship – be careful what you wish for..

yay-761321 (3)Joe has just started at a famous and highly competitive independent senior school. His parents were absolutely delighted that he not only won a place, but was awarded a triple scholarship: Academic, Sport and Music. Joe is one of the nicest boys I know and certainly deserves these accolades: he is highly intelligent; a fine sportsman and when he plays the cello it makes me want to cry (in a good way!). He and his family spent the summer in a fever of expectation about the new school and so I was looking forward to hearing how he was getting on.

“It’s not good news” his mother Sue said on the phone, “Joe can’t keep up with all the extra work he has to do, now that he’s a scholar. He’s getting so depressed; he’s even talking about leaving the school. ”

It seems that Joe and his parents failed to appreciate how much work being a scholar entailed: he is required to submit a detailed extended essay every half term to his Headmaster; he is expected to attend every meeting of the academic society; he also has to go to early morning rugby training whilst somehow fitting in orchestra and choir practises. There isn’t enough of Joe to go round.

“However hard Joe tries, he can’t keep everyone happy. He is utterly exhausted. I think his routine school work is suffering. We feel demoralised. What shall we do?”

Joe is not alone in his experience and whilst the teething troubles can usually be ironed out for students (I told Sue to make an emergency appointment with Joe’s tutor to discuss his timetable and if that didn’t work she should go straight to the Head) it is worth making sure that you know what winning a scholarship involves – BEFORE even applying. Equally important is making sure staff at the school know the pressure your child is under. Find out who is in charge of the overview, as teachers in individual departments, sport, music, drama etc are famous for not talking to each other!

In my book “Prepare your Daughter for Boarding” I discuss the benefits and disadvantages of scholarships and exhibitions. Firstly, many of the awards are only worth between 5% and 20% of the annual fees and often the financial reward is capped at the first scholarship. Thus the advantage that being a scholar confers is in the honour – and that can wear a little thin.

Of course this is not to say that if you have a particular talent you should not apply for a scholarship. Schools vary enormously in what they expect from scholars and in what support they offer – but multiple awards can be difficult to live with.

It is also a mistake to think that you cannot continue with a particular discipline unless you have been given a special award. One mother told me only yesterday,
“My daughter is good at acting, but she’s decided not to apply for a drama scholarship. She wants to keep her options open. She will definitely do some acting, but doesn’t want the pressure of being in every single play.”

Her views are echoed by a senior member of staff who told me that,
“Unless your child is very passionate about their chosen discipline, there is something to be said for keeping your options open. Scholarships can be a fantastic way to develop an existing talent, but they can also define a child very early on and prevent them from trying everything else on offer.”

Indeed, some students don’t even discover what they are good at until they actually arrive at senior school. It is not unusual for the scholars to find they have been overtaken by classmates who have developed since arriving at school. It is not always the scholars who come out on top.

A Fantastic result from a very enjoyable day!

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Film producer Pippa Cross and movement specialist Alison Fielding had a great day at The Old Rectory working with a terrific bunch of young people who in the space of six hours managed to create and rehearse their own play.

Read Victoria Davies Jones’s interview on Prepare your Daughter for Boarding in this weekend’s Daily Telegraph (please click on article page)

Don’t be seduced by flashy rooms

Weekend
12 Oct 2013

Boarding school has never come cheap. Traditionally, it has been seen as the preserve of the very wealthy, out of reach of the majority of families. Nor will that reputation, whether deserved or not, have been dented by the revelation that the cost of…read more…